One of the hot topics in the Body of Christ today is that of Religion versus Relationship. It begins with the disclaimer of, “I’m not talking about religion, but a relationship” and ends with fear, “religion will kill you.” To be clear, certain types of religion and religious observance may kill you. So will certain kinds of mushrooms, but please do not throw away the portabellas and porcinis. The truth is that God is okay with true and pure religion! In fact it will probably astound many that Jesus practiced his religious beliefs by customarily going to the synagogue and along with others taking the scrolls to read (Luke 4:16) as was custom among fellow Jews.
Webster defines religion as “the service and worship of God; a commitment or devotion to faith or its observance; a personal set of beliefs, and practices; scrupulous conformity; a cause, principle, or system of beliefs held to with ardor and faith.”
I can’t really find anything I disagree with in that definition of religion. But, so that my argument will not rest on me and the genius of Webster, let’s look to the scriptures. They are always a good place to begin and end!
James 1:27 (ESV)
27 Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.
Okay, so it is clearly laid out here. Religion isn’t bad. But, religion that is merely external is. True religion, the kind that God accepts, is shown through actions of love (visiting orphans and widows) and holiness (defined as not allowing the pollutants of the world to guide or taint your beliefs and actions).
I can hear your arguments. Jesus aside, (which really should never be done) most religion is dead. No love, little or no holiness. Why defend something like that?
Okay, let’s look at what you are proposing as the answer to this problem. In a word it is “relationship.” Good word, but let’s pin down a meaning for this word and what it means to be “in relationship.”
Since the creation of man, we have been “in relationship” with God, but the word relationship was first known to be used in or around the year 1741 and only recently has it come to describe man’s association with God. Since adopting a new non-biblical word, we have left the moorings of God’s revelation…..and that’s where things get tricky. We love God and Ben and Jerry’s ‘Chunky Monkey’ ice cream. We lavish the same word on Starbucks and our kids without a pronunciation change to delineate which one we are referring to. We hide behind that ambiguity not allowing our real preferences to be seen or known.
So it is with relationship. In fact, if it is defined by the common usage of today it can mean something or nothing or everything in between. It is used of dating and marriage. It can refer to the connection which people have with their significant other or with someone whom they are not getting along with. The problem is that it still begs for definition. What we desire in using this word is to connote something that is full of life and spiritual vitality. But without definition and certain boundaries, this word may still leave us empty, dead and external. If you don’t believe me, sit down with any marriage counselor and ask him about those marriages that outwardly appear to be living in relationship but are in fact dead within.
Now let’s return to the question of how our kinship with God was referred to before the word relationship was really used. Because I cannot be exhaustive in this, let’s just look at a few of the things Jesus and the N.T. say about relationship.
One word Jesus uses is “friends.” That is a word that describes connection and association or if you will relationship. Jesus said to his disciples, “You are my friends if you do what I command.” John 15:14 and 14:21, “Whoever it is who has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me.”
Without spin, friendship is defined by obedience, not by cheap syrupy words of love. Dancing, lifting hands, and getting on your face before Him in worship do not prove your friendship with God! Obedience borne out of love is the calling card for that type of association to Him!
“Children of God” is another phrase used to describe the believer’s relationship to Christ. John describes this person as one who does what is right and loves his brother. Again, as in the definition of religion accepted by God, our relationship to him is defined by holiness and love. (1 John 3:10)
Finally, the phrase “servants of God” holds within itself the definition of showing proper respect to everyone, loving the brotherhood of believers and fearing God. (1 Peter 2:16-17)
I know that bad things have gone on in the name of religion, but they have also occurred under the banner of relationships. What I think people are looking for in having a “relationship” with God is a living and dynamic faith that brings about love and dedication to God. My simple contention is that true religion, pure and undefiled, brings about that same loving and holy life. Again, some mushrooms like certain types of religion will kill you, but don’t throw away the portabellas and the porcinis!